Thursday, February 15, 2007

Valentine's Day..

First thing, I wanna say..

I'm glad that 2 of my friends have decided to pair up after months of friendship.. A compatible pair - even though height might seem to be an issue.. but what Pinky always says.. Everyone is of the same 'height' in bed. LOL~

But personality-wise, I guess 2 of them are like best of friends, able to share their thoughts, feelings and everything with each other. That's the most important part in a relationship. Who would wanna have a relationship just becos' he/she is handsome/ pretty, rich/ poor, or..worse.. lust?

As for me..

We din spend V-day in some fancy restaurants or have a bouquet of roses in my hands..
In fact.. knowing from past experiences that restaurants will be fully packed, cinemas will be swarming with young couples (girls in mini skirts, guys with big bags) and you thought you are sitting in a rocking/ massaging chair with a deja-vu of hearing a certain weird 'sound' from some weird-RA movies, deserted carparks suddenly full-house with newspapers sticking on their windows (especially after 9pm), hotels having good business, couples aiming for November and December babies..
We decided to go to a normal coffeeshop @ Bukit Batok for a plate of good O' fried hokkien prawn noodles and Or-Jian. Then again, we realised that even the coffeeshops are packed.. with families dining out. :P

Boring you say?

Haha.. We are a pair of clever piggies.. that we have already planned to spend a 'ROMANTIC' night-out @ Vivocity watching GHOST-RIDER! HA HA HA HA.. then of cos, I'm also planning to probably spend the remaining $60 vouchers on either a Stella Macartney Perfume OR MORE MAKE-UP!!! All thanks to today's edition of Urban, where they start talking about the different make-up for CNY. I glued my eyes on this Clinque Full Potential Lips Plump and Shine. My sinister plan is to let anyone who sees me during CNY to focus more on my FACE than my blubbering layers of fats.. then of cos, my bf will probably suggest to draw a face of a wayang to attract more attention. I can foresee myself spending a day or 2 @ Hougang Chalet. WAHAHAHA..

In whichever case, both of us are planning to 'earn' more ang paos this year, even though I hate the fact that I'll be bombarded with STUPID questions and comments like:

1) WHEN ARE YOU GETTING MARRIED? YOUR WHO-XX-WHO IS GETTING MARRIED END OF THIS YEAR LEH..

2) WHEN ARE YOU SLIMMING DOWN? BETTER LOSE WEIGHT NOW LAR.. IF NOT WEDDING DAY WILL LOOK UGLY

3) WHERE ARE YOU WORKING NOW? *pauses to think of further stupid history questions* STILL STUDYING? (2nd qn) OR STILL WORKING IN THAT WHAT-AGENCY AT TANJONG PAGAR? *note: since last year I've already told them I'm working in NWCDC.. sighs~*

4) AIYOH.. YOU GAIN WEIGHT IZZIT? *Note: $%%!@#%^@*^G*

5) HOW MUCH YOU EARNING NOW? MY XX-WHO-XX IS EARNING AROUND 2.5K NOW LEH.. YOU LEH? GOVERNMENT JOBS MUST BE PAYING VERY HIGH HOR?

and many more which I shall decline to put up any further..

Therefore, I've also thought of some good answers which I'm intending to use.. I realise that for the past years, I'm probably deemed to them as someone timid and introvert.. which in actual fact, I'm just giving my parents face for not being direct, straightforward and with a wicked tongue.

My answers, for everyone to 参考。

1) MARRIED? SEE HOW LAR.. I'M NOT THAT DESPERATE YET.
*Note: this indirectly telling them that their xx-who-xx are so desperate that they wanna quickly get married before they are either be left on the shelves or their rich-probably-stupid partners will set eyes for another*

2) SLIM DOWN? FOR WAT? YOU ALSO HAVEN'T SLIMMED DOWN LEH.. FURTHERMORE, I DON'T WANT THOSE SLIMMING CENTRE TO CON ME OF MY MONEY. BEAUTIFUL DOESN'T NECESSARY MEANS I MUST BE SLIM HOR.

3) I'M NOW A TEAM LEAD OF A TEAM OF 6 C****R C*********S IN NWCDC UNDER W*A. NOT FORGETTING THAT I WAS ALSO A TEAM LEAD IN MY PREVIOUS JOB IN TANJONG PAGAR.
*Note: This is to protect myself from any nuisiance enquiries, and to hightlight to any arrogant relatives that I'm capable of getting promotions with my hard-work and diligence therefore, do not try to 'arouse' my anger*

4) YES, I'VE GAINED WEIGHT.. BECOS' MY BF TREATS ME EXTREMELY WELL AND FEEDS ME WITH LOTSA TENDER LOVING CARE, TILL I CAN'T HELP IT BUT TO GAIN WEIGHT.
*Note: My motive.. to make them speechless.. and if they are to ask me Question 1, just answer using answer 1. That will shut them up any further*

5) THEY EARN SO MUCH AR? GOOD LOR.. I ONLY EARN 'THANK-YOUs" AND 'RESPECT' FOR WORKING IN THE COMMUNITY SERVICE LINE, HELPING THE NEEDY/ UNEMPLOYED PEOPLE OF SINGAPORE.
*Note: It may be seem as a glamourous job, but certainly change many people's lives through our efforts*

There.. you have it..

These answers are carefully 'crafted' to avoid any remarks from relatives that you have no 家教, and indirectly giving them sarcastic answers. Heh heh.. *grins*

My note: If you are offended by anything that I've said, or think that I think highly (rather, fatly.. WAHAHAHA) of myself.. go ahead, like as if I care..

This is my life.. and this is how I live it!

I think a famous blogger probably amde this comment before (i think).. "Don't like what I've blog, then don't read my blog lor.. "

I love that comment..:P

2 comments:

SJ said...

Firstly... must thank you for bringing us together (though both of us always @#$%^&*%!! you for not doing so earlier, sparing us the heartache and time lost... LOL!)

Then... as for height, I guess we can't change that. I admit I did have my reservations initially due to height difference. Call me shallow but I've seen my friends going out with shorter guys before... even my brother went out with someone taller than him once... and all went seperate ways within months or so. I guess they couldn't take the skeptical looks from passer-bys, the criticisms from friends and the pressure to conform to societal norms bah... Sighz. Looks does matter...

But thank goodness I have a great bunch of colleagues and friends who, upon finding out my concerns, starts to convince me how wrong I could be. My current colleagues will point out couples on the street with the girls taller than the guys to me whenever we go for lunch or hang out; my friends will cite themselves as examples to prove that my so-called 'problems' are trivial e.g. I've a ex-sec-sch friend who has been going out with someone 3 years younger than her and her relationship is stronger than ever... then there's this who has fren who has a scottish girlfriend who is much older and taller than him as well... yet they are getting married end of the year! =)

Guess my fears are unfounded then. At the end of the day, it's your own life and your own happiness, which nobody can dictate how you live it or tell you what to do! Instead of wasting time wallowing in self-pity, in misery, in inferiority, in pessimism... we should give each other chance to know each other, to like each other, to do things for each other and to show each other that there's always possibility in every situation as long as both are strongly committed! If we never try and take risks, how will we ever know how it's going to be like?

As long as both parties are comfortable to talk about anything under the sun... both sides truly love each other... as long as there's healthy dose of communication, trust, care, desire, mutual understanding and passion... Love will conquer all!!

So instead of thinking 'we are all the same height in bed' (which is just a way to psycho ourselves and make ourselves feel better and won't solve the problem totally), we can do practical things to make our heights less obvious... I am more than willing to slouch more even though it wll result in a bad posture in me... I can give up wearing heels even though everyone knows I'm a sucker for high heels... I will start wearing flats or pumps from now on! But what's more important to me... is his character and the way he treats me far more make up for the lack of height! (I hope... hehe!) I know I am always eager to pounch on anyone who dares denounce us for our appearances or that few inches... I dun care even if it's my mum. As long as I believe in something, nobody can stop me! Lol... already there have been some 'bloodshed'... but who cares! NOBODY can stop me this time!

Anyway, thanks babe, for your well-wishes and encouragements... and the faith in our relationship. We should give you a nice treat someday and catch up on the gossips! Hahaha... I hope this works, that it'll be my last, that things will go happily... there will be challenges and obstacles and things will not be easy... but with his hand in mine, we will be able to face it all... we will be able to find courage, strength and solace in each other!

Really sick of all the guessing game, the searching, the waiting, the emptiness which can devour you and suck you dry and leave you feeling absolutely nothing... zero and hapless amd useless...

Having Ray changes all that... and I have never been so sure and determined in my life...

Shannon said...

I'm glad that both of you are together and found each other's inner beauty..
Pinky aka chow Raymond is a very nice guy among the guy friends I had. So.. I guess my instinct of introducing him to you during your down times seemed to be a good choice, at least i know he's far better than the-you-know-who.
Treasure each other, every single moment of it.
When it comes a time that you feel that your day isn't complete without listening to his/her voice, it's the time when you know you can't live a day without him/her.

So..er... WHEN'S MY TREAT AR?